My eyes have been opened to a lie that blind-sided us. It began long before Roe vs Wade in 1973. Likely it began long before the first contraceptive pill was used in 1960 in USA. The Lie? Children are not a blessing. Very unbiblical don’t you think?
The Baby-boomer generation and their younger siblings have told me they wanted more children, but couldn’t afford them. This explanation for controlling family size has never made sense to me…and recently the mystery of this has been uncovered to me.
You see, my great-grandparents and grandparents had free love long before the term was coined. Free love of the 1960’s seems like such an oxymoron to me. What’s free about making love – all the while on a mission to avoid a pregnancy? More over, my great-grandparents had 11 children to feed during the years of the great depression. Talk about not having much money….whoa – these folks had to walk for 5 miles to get 1 chicken to feed all 13 people in their family. Christmas, well that was an orange or an apple – and in good times you might get one of each.
Curiously, enter the 1960’s – the big baby boomer generation. Contraception is promoted as the means to avoiding pregnancy and limiting family size, because who can afford big families. Wow – children are expensive. No generation preached that louder. Womens’ Lib movement entered following WWII and now you see many women holding jobs outside the home – because you know it’s expensive to raise 2.5 children per family unit.
Truth time: Did Children really get more expensive? Or was it all the stuff we thought they needed? What happened between 1920 and 1960?
Enter 1973 and the shock of Roe vs Wade. Abortion. Many of us readily and loudly denounce the horrors of abortion. Yet – have any of us considered how it got this far down the slippery slope?
The lie: Children are in our way — they are to be avoided –they are expensive.
How God’s heart has been grieving for generations. His Words are clear how He feels about children.
Mark 10: 14
Jesus said to them, “Let the little children come to me, and do not hinder them, for the kingdom of God belongs to such as these.”
Psalm 127: 3
Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from him….Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them.
Sadly, I bought into the lie myself. Years went by in which I didn’t think we were financially ready. And then God brought us our first son. I cut way back on career and chose to make our home a priority. It has been worth it – and God provides for all our needs. He really does. That is truth. God provides for His children. We’re not living in a mansion – nor driving new cars – nor taking big vacations – but we are together under one roof. We are eating well. We are clothed. We are making memories and growing together.
Maybe it’s time to align our heart with his. I’m seeing hope. So many in my own generation reclaiming the family. We’re not just protesting abortion – we are standing up for children in so many beautiful ways. (Big families are making a comeback – the Big 15 passenger van really is cool! I know several big family mamas – that do earn a small supplemental income – but not at the expense of raising their family. Woa…what happened – did children suddenly become more affordable?)
Children are a blessing! They are worth our time and our money. They are worth it! Let’s repent of the sins we have committed against God and His children…and let’s put our time and money where it matters.
So many beautiful ways to support children:
Mentor a child
Offer childcare for a single mom
Volunteer in the church nursery, teach sunday school or Wednesday program
Provide respite for special needs kids
Sponsor a child in a 3rd world country
Hey and if you are so blessed as to have babies come from your free love ….celebrate that! (Real free love really should make a comeback. Let’s celebrate the gifts God has given us.)
Truth = Children are a blessing – a Gift from God. He provides for His kids!
Let’s get out there and tell this next generation how much God wants them and loves them! Get out there and show them!